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I read an e-book called “The Four steps to Change”. It says we only need to do 4 things in order to change ourselves.

Firstly it was to identify the limiting thoughts. For me, my limiting thoughts is insecurity and also lack of confidence in myself. After going through some activities, I had become more confidence in myslef. I also believe that even though there are areas that I am not as good as others, but at least I can learn. I just need to learn the ability in doing something, and I will be equipped with that skill too. This actually makes me feel more confidence, as there’s nothing that I cannot do, just that I haven’t learn the way to do. And with this mind-set, I feel much better about myself.

The authors also shares that every results we get in life comes from our patterns of thought. I feel that I shall start thinking differently – instead of thinking ‘I am not good at this, so I am not doing this’, to ‘I shall just attempt this and see how can I be better at this’. I shall starts with the way I handling my students, who sometimes give me a lot of headache.

Then you should find a reason, a very strong reason to tell yourself why you should deal with this. To me, I feel that other than want to be more confidence in myself and be able move forward (as in I tend to hold on to the same place when I have no confidence), I think another reason is also because I want to see a bigger me, a successful me, who is a person who can inspire the people around, a person that can bring joy and happiness. If I am not changed, I will always stop moving forward when I have troubles and uncertainty, which means I will have no growth at all. This is really scary.

After that, a confession to the closest person is the next step. Although I had made my confession that I want to change myself to my family, but I still find that sometimes I am still not proactive enough. Sometimes I just feel very lazy – mostly lazy to share my thoughts and just want to keep myself in my little own world. This is really bad, as it won’t help to change myself at all. The feeling of ‘aiya, 算了, I will just be quiet on whatever people think or say’ just pop up in my mind, and I even choose to keep quiet and not to defend myself even when I was wrongly accused. When people comment about me, I also choose to be quiet. This is something not acceptable if I want to see growth in myself, but yet I had let this thinking grows in me. From now on, I shall change myself and be more proactive from now on, and share my thoughts.

So, be confidence and proactive, and success is just around the corner! 加油加油加油!!!

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