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I believe everybody agree that family, especially parents have very important role of educating their children. In fact, parents are role models for their children. Like it or not, every single child will take after example from what the parents always do in their life. Therefore it is very important for parents to really know what they are doing in their life. A child who is used to see his/her parents fighting each other, will have tendency to be more violent in the future. A child who is used to see his/her parents going back home late at night getting drunk, will have more tendency to become a drunker someday. A child who is used to hear vulgarity from his/her parents will use the same things to his/her friends or other people as well.

I have observed nowadays family life, and here are the two “fatal mistakes” that normally will occur in a family:

1. A lot of people think that the most important thing for kids is just facility, therefore a lot of parents are just giving money as “facility” for them, without spending more quality time for their children. It is understandable that parents are also busy working to fulfill the needs of the family, it is also very important. But sometimes a line must be drawn just to free time for children, to build more qualified relationship with them and understand them. From what I have learnt, communication is the key to educate children. As for me I always remember that every single child is different individual to others, and it is totally wrong to think that all children are the same. Even children can be very different from their parents in term of talents and mindset. I personally admire a mother who sacrifices her full-time job and makes it becomes part-time job, or even become just a housewife, in order to have more time with the children, but of course it is not the only way to have more time with the children. Investing time for our children means securing our future as well.
2. Some parents put too many trust on their children until they fail to see theirs. It is awesome to put trust to children, to teach responsibility, but some parents then start to think that whatever their children do is always correct. If their children are involved in trouble in school for example, they always think that it must be caused by others children, without even spending time to evaluate what has happened. This will make children start to think that it’s alright to do whatever they want to do because their parents are always act as their defender. Sometimes, it is good to let the children feel the effect of getting involved in trouble by letting them receive the punishment. It is good to teach children that in the reality, situation will not always be fair for them, and there are some situations that they must learn how to accept it. Teach them about the real life… not by words only, but also by example/action.

I am really inspired in children education after reading the book of “Teaching Your Children Success” by James Skinner and Royce Krueger. The 11 rules are very inspiring to me.

1. Unconditional Love
2. Action
3. Be a role model
4. Recognize their successes
5. See your children bigger than yourself
6. Provide them with growth and proper education
7. Satisfy their curiosity
8. Teach children about what money really is
9. Teach children to make friends with high character people
10. Be a high role model
11. Honor the children when they walk their own path

These should be a magnificent “bible” for parents to educate the next generations.

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